One of the most painful experiences in my life has been betrayal. In my ongoing dialogue with the Divine, I’ve learned that lying to ourselves can lead to self-betrayal, and this sets us up to experience betrayal from others. Self-truth is what stops us from perpetuating the experience of betrayal.
Here’s what God says about this: To end the experience of feeling betrayed by others you must free yourself with self-truth and stop self-betrayal.
The Divine’s elaboration on this helped me to understand my role in these painful experiences:
Stop Betraying Yourself
You have had a number of experiences that you label as betrayal. Yet each of those times, you betrayed yourself well before the other person made choices in which you felt betrayed.
You betrayed yourself by: saying “yes” when you wanted to say “no”; not speaking up; caring more for others’ happiness than your own; and not having a voice when you are a voice.
Noemi Grace, you are a voice being trained to echo the voice of God without distortion. How can a voice not have a voice in relationships? That is self-betrayal.
You feared loss or damage to relationships, so you kept quiet and dishonored your truth. In doing so, you also robbed others of opportunities to see themselves more clearly, and you denied yourself the chance to be heard and received.
Wow. It never occurred to me that my withholding could rob anyone besides myself.
Self-Betrayal Costs You and Others
The cost is huge: you replace self-acceptance with anxiety, self-love with self-loathing, and self-fulfillment with despair.
You are all here to make a difference to yourself and others. How can you make a difference when you compromise your truth by being silent, lying to yourself and others, or withholding full self-truth in fear?
The idea of sharing my full truth scared me, and I stated, “Sometimes I feel that it’s not safe to speak the full truth.” As always, the Divine explanation provided the clarity I needed:
Yes, but do you tell yourself the full truth of the situation? Or do you deny the unsafety or minimize or rationalize it?
The First Person you must be Honest with is Yourself
The first person you must not betray, abandon, or reject is you. Do your actions betray or abandon you? Self-betrayal and self-abandonment are the opposites of self-acceptance. When you betray, abandon, or reject yourself, you move away from love toward fear.
Loving yourself is the antidote to many fears. Appreciating yourself sets you free from the negative dialogue in your mind.
Have you been listening to what the critical voices in your mind tell you: “You’re not good enough,” “You’re stupid,” “You’re unlovable,” and so on? You tell yourselves many lies. When you stop lying to yourself, you stop betraying yourself and you begin to accept yourself.
Stop the ugly talk in your mind; reject, betray, and abandon that. Your negative self-talk is rubbish. Stop listening to it and start listening to the voice of love, which speaks to you harmoniously.
Free Yourself with Self-Truth
Start to tell yourself the truth: “I am beautiful, I am capable, and I am lovable.” And the moment you believe this, you free yourself from the shackles in your mind that have kept you stuck and limited.
Critical self-talk is the top way people betray themselves. Stop telling yourself lies about how unworthy you are. You are more worthy than you know. You all have the seed of divinity in you. How can you be unworthy and divine at the same time?
Start telling yourself the truth, beginning with the beautiful things about you that you resist, reject, and deny about yourself.
Tell yourself the truth of your actions too. Take ownership and stop being defensive. Everyone makes mistakes. Accept your mistakes and be responsible by telling yourself the truth. You are not your actions or your mistakes. But when you don’t take ownership of them, you can never rise above your petty behaviors. Take ownership and stop blaming and defending.
It takes courage to tell the truth. Be honest with yourself. Without this, you cannot love or accept yourself unconditionally, and you remain trapped under the weight of lies, blaming, and explanations. Free yourself with self-truth; this is the truth that sets you free.
Since I received this message, I’ve become more aware of the ways in which I lie to myself and betray myself. This has helped me to significantly decrease self-criticism and my internal dialogue is much more self-loving. It’s also becoming easier for me to speak my truth to others, which for me is a huge win.
I encourage you to apply the Divine words in this post so you can experience this for yourself. If you enjoyed this post, please visit my blog to read other inspiring messages from the Divine. I’ll continue sharing many more of the Divine’s liberating gifts in future posts, which will also feature many practical tips about loving yourself the Divine way.
